Yes, in the Qur'an it says that polygamy is allowed, but many ignore the BIG ASS DISCLAIMER that comes with it. It says that you are only allowed to marry more than one if you can be fair upon your wives. The question is, can mere mortals living in the 21st century ever be fair to two wives (or more)? My answer would be HELL NO.
Oh well, to each his own.
The past couple of months have been rather psychologically stressing me out. Hence the need for the dive trips to calm me down. At times, I stepped out of myself and float up and look at the bigger picture. No, it has nothing to do with my marriage or The Diver.
It has something to do with polygamy and a family member. Let's just say that I am happy for my family if they're happy with the path that they've chosen. But, an advice to polygamists and wannabes, if you have the balls to marry another, please also have the balls to tell your wife that you've married or are going to marry. Be a man for God's sake! I once told a raging abusive ex-husband that I was not in love with him anymore, and that I was in love with another person.
He could've killed me at that very moment, but yes dear readers, I HAD THE BALLS TO DO IT. That's all that matters.
Now this polygamy issue in my family has caused severe distress to some parties and awkwardness to some, and this all stems out of a marriage that was kept secret. You don't know what trouble you give people ... it's so menyusahkan.
I picked out a new journal for 2010 at MPH the other day (which The Diver paid for, thank you!) - I was thinking of a Moleskine initially but settled with this from Peter Pauper, it has more meaning in life now:
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I feel u, mate.
tee hee that's a good journal. someone else might need it too.
I always get stressed out by both parties.
Can't even enjoy peace in my own house because of them!
Thank you Miss Latar...
Za, it was the last piece though. I checked online and it was sold out already, ingatkan nak get two more of those for people who require it most...hehehe
hmm....2010 resolution? i wanna be calmer than now. does it mean heartless?
SD, well what can I stay... Keep Calm and Carry On! Anyway, the only thing that has kept me sane throughout my whole life is Arwah Maktok's advise ~ just turn the other cheek, and be patient. So patience please Sayang, and let God deal with the rest.
Spena, being calm doesn't mean heartless. I'm also aiming to have less freakouts next year. Stay cool!
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