get a barf bag ready

It's Sunday night. Always a sobering moment.

Let me tell you a story about The Diver and I. Cuz I do hear things on the grapevine about our relationship, and some people who read my blog that find it outrageous that I'm dating him. Such deviltry, according to some. Why? Because The Diver used to date an online friend of mine.

So let's explore this unwritten rule that you shouldn't date your friend's ex.

The Diver broke up with his ex girlfriend in December 2007. Oh no, not a breakup. He was dumped, in a rather ugly way, but that's just my own humble opinion. His ex, who is my online friend, The Diver and I became friends sometime in September. And we first met at a buka puasa do at my place last year.

The Diver and I have always been platonic friends. Even after his breakup. The only times we were in contact was casual Hi's through YM, a teh tarik session and a lunch with a mutual friend. That's about it.

And he'd drop comments on this blog, most of the times teasing about the stupid crush I had on his dad. Crush, people, bukan infatuation ke apa ke ok.

There was never an iota of attraction - physical or emotional between him and I. When he was down in the dumps after the breakup, I was not even there for him. Well occassionally we'd say hi on YM and he'd tell me how he felt, and I'll just go .. "oh... hang in there, things are gonna get better". That's about it.

I wanted to reach out, but I didnt. God knows how bad I wanted to reach out because of the sorry state that he was in. Reason number one, I had my own set of demons to deal with. Reason number two, I don't want to be there for my friend's ex. I'm a single mother - I get shit all the time. I didn't want to be that woman who offers a shoulder to cry on to someone that is in such a vulnerable state. Because whatever happens after that, I'll be the bitch that's the talk of the town.

It went on that way... until I hosted Burger Nite in early March, 11th of March if I'm not mistaken. It was the first time that we'd met since November 2007.

It was funny. The moment I saw him, I felt so happy. So relieved that he was still smiling, after his devastating breakdowns end of 2007. And throughout the night, we were so comfortable with each other. The comfort level between both of us were just, amazing. Amazing - for lack of a better word. I didn't even noticed that we both were so at ease with each other.

Three days later, we went out on a date. And the rest, they say, is history.

So, NO, betches, I didn't steal The Diver from my online friend. He broke up in December, we went out in March. So, mamat ni dah habis eddah OK.

And no, it's not weird going out with a friend's Ex. If the friend is not a best friend (like an online friend), I think it would be OK. I wouldn't recommend going out with your best friend's Ex though. Now that can be quite.... EERIE.

I'm not justifying this to anyone. I just needed something sensational to write about. And The Diver can't call me chicken anymore after this.

SeaDemon, you are Chicken.