law and order

Do you know that a third party can be charged if she/he was the direct cause of your divorce?

KNOW IT.

I didn't know this until I went to take my marriage certificate at JAWI. And by chance, I was seated near an Ustaz who was also a marriage counselor. To cut a long story short, he was the one who told me that a third party can be charged for wrecking a marriage.

So I went home and Googled and found out more.

And to cut a longer story short, I found a lawyer who has experience doing it. She's not the syariah lawyer that I used for my divorce proceeding but another one recommended by a friend. I liked her instantly, she's practical, modern and most of all, ruthless.

So the complaint went to JAIS and a police report was made too. The latter is just a "procedure". Whatever that means.

Now that The Diver and I had reconciled, my lawyer was wondering if I wanted to withdraw the complaint. I told her that after my reconciliation, the third party was still trying to wreck our marriage, and unrelenting in her pursuit.

But now, now I do not know. At this moment, I don't care to know, because if I did, I would have asked JAIS to proceed with the next step.

So in the end I told my lawyer I needed time, and I said a few things that I should not be disclosing here. Take all the time you need, she said. My emotional perseverance is that of a marathon runner, so don't underestimate me.

Whatever it is, this case is till open until I tell her to close it. It's open, just like my bleeding heart.

This blogpost was done on the 1st Anniversary of my brother in law's passing, and I dedicate it to him because if he was around, he will be encouraging me to do what's right and to exercise my rights. Always.