... this year's hari raya. This is my first raya as a single mum with three kids. I thought I was gonna be miserable and sitting in one corner while feeding my kids ketupat and fried chicken. But no, it was actually more fun, less stress and I have a stronger reason to take quick afternoon naps ("Yunus dah sleepy ye, darling? Come mama put you to sleep.")
Downside is, I get awkward questions, more like thirtysomethings yang belum kawin lagi. (ie. bila nak kawin?) There were a lot of "categories" of questions from my aunts and uncles. It really does not help when you have 15 of them bombarding you like nobody's business.
Back to the categories.
A. The konon-konon nak berlapik aunt
Auntie A: So, where's your hubby? Tak balik?
Me: (hmm.. this will be a trick question la) Oh no, he's going back to Kedah this year.
Auntie A: Ohhhhhh... so you all memang la.. dah.. dah...
Me: Dah divorce? Yup. 1st September
Auntie A: Tu la Auntie dah tau, just nak confirm je.
Dah tau buat pe tanya kan?
B. The Preachy-In-A-Good Way Uncle
Uncle J: So how's everything?
Me: Everything's cool... I'm happy.
Uncle J: Tu la, tell your dad. He's got to accept fate. God has better plans for you. Ini semua takdir. He's got something better in store for you. Your father is so worried, but I tell him this all happen for a good reason. You're still young, how old are you? You're not even 40 kan?
(cilakak!!! do I LOOK 40??!!!)
Me: No uncle, I'll be 33 in December.
Uncle J: Ha! Muda lagi tu! You're still YOUNG! Don't worry.
Me: Err.. I think I hear my son calling me.
C. The Oblivious Aunt
Auntie C: Min, I really tak tau.. I just heard from Auntie N about you. I'm so sorry to hear what happened.
Me: No worries auntie. I'm more concerned about when my bibik is coming back at this point in time.
Auntie C: Eh you I really really tak tau. I terkejut ni.
Somehow I think she was not so terkejut.
D. The Positive Aunt
Auntie K: Don't worry Min, your life will be much better. You have so much ahead of you... maybe you'll find yourself a much much better man. By the way... hari tu kan I dapat "xxx" from your friend..
Hahah, ada je nak korek!
E. The Encouraging Single Cousin
Cousin J: Yeay, now when you feel like going out just give me a call k! We can have a girl's nite out.
Auntie E: Abis anak dia 3 orang tu nak letak mana?
Ceh, potong stim la Auntie E!
To all of y'all, have a swell Hari Raya. Maaf zahir dan batin.
I will be at my parents place if you guys wanna come over :) And my parents will be in Kuching (with Medina) from the 16th to 20th.
Downside is, I get awkward questions, more like thirtysomethings yang belum kawin lagi. (ie. bila nak kawin?) There were a lot of "categories" of questions from my aunts and uncles. It really does not help when you have 15 of them bombarding you like nobody's business.
Back to the categories.
A. The konon-konon nak berlapik aunt
Auntie A: So, where's your hubby? Tak balik?
Me: (hmm.. this will be a trick question la) Oh no, he's going back to Kedah this year.
Auntie A: Ohhhhhh... so you all memang la.. dah.. dah...
Me: Dah divorce? Yup. 1st September
Auntie A: Tu la Auntie dah tau, just nak confirm je.
Dah tau buat pe tanya kan?
B. The Preachy-In-A-Good Way Uncle
Uncle J: So how's everything?
Me: Everything's cool... I'm happy.
Uncle J: Tu la, tell your dad. He's got to accept fate. God has better plans for you. Ini semua takdir. He's got something better in store for you. Your father is so worried, but I tell him this all happen for a good reason. You're still young, how old are you? You're not even 40 kan?
(cilakak!!! do I LOOK 40??!!!)
Me: No uncle, I'll be 33 in December.
Uncle J: Ha! Muda lagi tu! You're still YOUNG! Don't worry.
Me: Err.. I think I hear my son calling me.
C. The Oblivious Aunt
Auntie C: Min, I really tak tau.. I just heard from Auntie N about you. I'm so sorry to hear what happened.
Me: No worries auntie. I'm more concerned about when my bibik is coming back at this point in time.
Auntie C: Eh you I really really tak tau. I terkejut ni.
Somehow I think she was not so terkejut.
D. The Positive Aunt
Auntie K: Don't worry Min, your life will be much better. You have so much ahead of you... maybe you'll find yourself a much much better man. By the way... hari tu kan I dapat "xxx" from your friend..
Hahah, ada je nak korek!
E. The Encouraging Single Cousin
Cousin J: Yeay, now when you feel like going out just give me a call k! We can have a girl's nite out.
Auntie E: Abis anak dia 3 orang tu nak letak mana?
Ceh, potong stim la Auntie E!
To all of y'all, have a swell Hari Raya. Maaf zahir dan batin.
I will be at my parents place if you guys wanna come over :) And my parents will be in Kuching (with Medina) from the 16th to 20th.
And this was how I looked raya morning trying to get everybody all dolled up ... Ali snapped this one :) The flipped out mommy...
10 comments:
kekekeekk...our family memanggggggg banyak soalan.
adeh...i can imagine what happened at maktok's place.
And they're not ashamed to say it out loud too. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em... Selamba kodok je la I this raya :)
Wish you were here though, za. It would've been more fun.
Heheh. Family. You can hate them, be pissed at them, but at the end of the day, you forgive them, because they are your family.
But memang lawak la they all with mcm2 persoalan about your personal life! ;)
And you still look great at 33 :)
Well, anyway you look hot la Ibu. Too bad you're not rayaing with my dad :D
ardy, ya that always happens.. i always get pissed off with them. but that's about it. heheh. and thank u, maybe i look better in my blog. you havent met me in the flesh .. heheh.. I always look tired, tak percaya tanya SD.
SD, i bought that kebaya hoping that you'd invite me to your dad's house. hahah.
Ya lah...next time kalau I tak balik, you toksah la stay lama2 sangat kat BP tu.
Those aunts and uncles of yours sounded so familiar. I got those similar questions during raya in the first year after my divorce too.. are we related by any chance? hehe..
3 years on and it's even worst now.. So many asked when I am going to remarry again and one even offered to matchmake me! urgh..
hazyr, maybe we are related! i belum habis eddah lagi, ada yang tanya "dah ada calon ke?" WOT????
I am only turning 24 and I often get all those annoying "bila nak kahwin"-like questions from the aunties of the world. can't a girl just be happily unmarried anymore?
hi ultimatecass, I think I succumbed to that situation... that's why I got married at 25. My suggestion, give 'em the deaf ear treatment.
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